Why Do Guys Feel Bad After Ejaculating?

There is a common issue that most men report as they are having a bad feeling after an ejaculation, either alone or with their sexual partner. This issue needs to be reported if you are having it consistently because the bad feeling can make ejaculation an avoidable activity. Finding out the reason that makes you feel bad after ejaculation and getting rid of them is necessary. No worries, as this blog post explains the most commonly reported reasons that make a man feel bad after ejaculation, how to overcome the bad feelings, and when to seek professionals.

Causes of feeling bad after ejaculation

The causes that make a man feel bad after ejaculation can be divided into two different categories. They are,

1. Psychological Causes of Feeling Bad After Ejaculation
2. Physical Causes of Post-Ejaculation Discomfort

Psychological Causes of Feeling Bad After Ejaculation

• Post-Coital Dysphoria (PCD)
• Guilt and Shame
• Relationship Concerns
• Depression and Anxiety

Post-Coital Dysphoria (PCD)

Post-coital dysphoria (PCD) is a condition also called post-sex blues, where a man experiences sadness, anxiety, irritability, or depression after ejaculation. This emotional response can last anywhere from a few minutes to several hours. There is no proper, fully done research on PCD. However, some research available on the web says that hormonal changes, neurotransmitter fluctuations, and psychological factors contribute to this condition.

Guilt and Shame

Many men are brought up with the teachings that say never ejaculate until marriage; likewise, there are some cultural beliefs, personal morality, and cultural influences. They are,

• Religious Beliefs: Some religions teach that masturbation or sex outside of marriage is sinful. This leads to a guilty feeling after ejaculation.
• Personal Morality: Men feel bad after having a relationship with a woman who they never wanted. Most men like having orgasms with the partner they are in a long-term relationship with.
• Cultural Influences: Societal pressures around masculinity, purity, or self-control may cause men to feel regret after sexual release.

Relationship Concerns

Men in relationships may experience negative feelings after ejaculation due to emotional or psychological reasons such as:

• Guilt over infidelity (physical or emotional)
• Not having a good emotional connection with a partner.
• Conflict in a Relationship or an unsatisfied relationship 
• Feeling like being used or using someone else.

Depression and Anxiety

Suppose a man has mental health conditions like depression and anxiety. In that case, it may contribute to negative thought patterns, self-criticism, or general feelings of sadness after having an orgasm. 

Physical Causes of Post-Ejaculation Discomfort

• Hormonal Changes
• Post-Orgasmic Illness Syndrome (POIS)
• Dehydration and Nutrient Loss

Hormonal Changes

After ejaculation, the body releases various hormones, including dopamine, oxytocin, and prolactin. If there is a sudden drop in dopamine and oxytocin after orgasm, then it can lead to feelings of sadness or emptiness. 

Also, research suggests that after an orgasm, some men experience a drop in Serotonin. It is a neurotransmitter in the brain that helps in maintaining happiness. Also, a drop in Prolactin contributes to temporary emotional distress as it is responsible for post-orgasmic relaxation.

Post-Orgasmic Illness Syndrome (POIS)

POIS is a rare condition and also not reported by many men, where a man experiences flu-like symptoms after ejaculation, but there might not be any flu on him. It includes, 

• Fatigue
• Muscle aches
• Brain fog
• Irritability or mood swings

The exact cause of POIS is unclear, but it is believed to be an autoimmune or allergic response to one’s semen.

Dehydration and Nutrient Loss

After ejaculation, there will be a loss of fluids and nutrients like magnesium and zinc from the man’s body. So, if he is not sufficiently hydrated and has these nutrients, he may feel bad after ejaculation because he will become weak, tired, or mentally foggy.

How to Overcome Negative Feelings After Ejaculation

Overcoming negative feelings after ejaculation for a male is complicated as you need to find the root cause of these feelings and improve yourself by making your self-image stronger is the most important. So, consider asking yourself to overcome the guilt, shame, or anxiety that is contributing to your post-ejaculatory distress. If you are unable to find them, then consulting with a therapist or counselor can be very helpful in finding and solving the issue.

To make yourself mentally stronger. Follow self-compassion and understand that sexual activities are natural and that experiencing them is not shameful. To be physically fit, you need to have a well-hydrated body and a balanced diet.

If you are well and your relationship with your partner is not well-strengthened, it might cause bad feelings. So, take steps like discussing feelings, expectations, and emotional needs to build a stronger connection.

Other ways are to be physically fit, exercise regularly, consider taking supplements if you lack nutrients, and get sufficient sleep.

When to Seek Professional Help

Suppose feelings of sadness, guilt, or discomfort after ejaculation are persistent and interfere with your daily life. Then, you must seek professional help. If you are confused about reaching the doctor, follow the details below. 

• Sex Therapist: To address psychological and emotional concerns related to sex.
• Psychologist or Psychiatrist: If anxiety, depression, or trauma plays a role.
• Urologist: If there are physical symptoms like POIS or extreme fatigue after ejaculation.

Takeaway

Feeling bad after ejaculation is reported more widely by men than women. No worries; you need to ask yourself questions to find out the root cause of the bad feeling you are having and solve it by making yourself a strong individual against the feeling that makes you bad. Be physically and mentally fit to avoid bad feelings after orgasm. If you are having this bad feeling consistently for a longer period, consult with a sexual health doctor or psychologist to get a solution. 

Contact Fortius Health Clinic if you are having any sexual problems that cause bad feelings or a disturbance during orgasm with your partner.